How to love when you have been hurt
Love Hurts Quotes (993 quotes)
Long-Term Relationships: Rebuilding Love After Emotional Damage
Maybe someone hurt you physically or emotionally. Most of us can relate on some level to that feeling. Even people who excel at taking personal responsibility have at least one story of having been hurt. To a teenager who just had her heart broken, the pain really seems like the end of the world. In fact, Livestrong estimates that every minutes, a teenager commits suicide—and that the number of suicides in high-income families is the same as in poor families. Presumably, not all of those teens have suffered incomprehensible tragedies. What they have in common is pain, born from different adversities and circumstances.
These two parts are inextricably bound up together, and, as a matter of fact, part two follows from part one. You get a clear, bright, and shiny message of validation of yourself as a person. The one person with whom it works proves to you, in the course of being together, that he or she really gets who you are. Only someone who has plunged your depths and finds you amazing, special, and wonderful can offer this level of validation. Knowing the other person, genuinely knowing, is the cornerstone of intimacy.
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It just means you have to approach your relationship a bit differently without reopening or further damaging her deep emotional scars. Take your time and really get to know her., Most of us have felt like our trust has been compromised at some point in our lives.
We are the sum of all our experiences; pain included. Or maybe, I should say, pain most importantly. Because pain ends up leaving behind the deepest scars. Choosing to love is a vulnerable action. Someone puts themselves out on the line — dares to be seen for who they are, and sometimes face some of the worst outcomes.
When we get disappointed, the natural tendency is to want to give up on love. Think of heartbreak as something of the past. The person who broke your heart in the past has nothing to offer you in the present, so why let them shape your future? Trust the universe. Take the lessons. The truth is sometimes you have to get knocked down to learn how to stand back up.